About a year ago I decided to move across the country, from Boston to Los Angeles. Luckily, I
did it with my girlfriend which made it easier, but was still nerve racking. The thought of leaving everything you know, friends, family, a stable job, a sense of security, to go somewhere with no job and no friends, could make the little voice in your head say: "Wait, why am I doing this?".
Fear is assuming the outcome of a situation that hasn’t happened yet. When the thought of
the unknown lingers in the back of your mind you only have two options: to listen to that voice or embrace the unknown and jump into it head first. I decided to make the jump. The experience has completely changed the course of my life and is one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Fear is something none of us are strangers to. To fear is to resist the unknown. So in order to eliminate fear you have to embrace the unknown.
If you're thinking of making a change in your life here are a few steps that can help you get over fear:
1. Write down what you want in life and don't hold back.
You can have anything the world has to offer. You just have to ask. Vision boards are really powerful tools to help you visualize the things you want. When you can visualize what you want you begin to make it real. Go see your dream home. Test out your favorite car. If you can see yourself with what you want, you will subconsciously make decisions that will help you attain those things.
2. Make a "Not To-Do" list.
This will eliminate all of the things that don't serve your ultimate goal. You'll find that when you take inventory of the way you spend your time, you actually have a lot more time than you thought. You will begin to fill that time with things that get you closer to you dreams.
3. Do 1 thing every day to work towards your goal.
If you lay one brick every day you might be building a house slowly, but you're one brick closer to your dream home than you were yesterday. It adds up.
4. Be grateful for what you have.
Do this early and often. This will help you stay present and keep you from living in the past. I like to say everything I'm grateful for in the morning when I wake up and at night right before bed to keep me grounded. Writing it down is even more powerful.
5. Write down the worst case scenarios and then write down a solution to each scenario.
You will learn that almost nothing is irreversible and that the worst case scenarios are not likely ever going to happen. You will also find that the best case scenarios outweigh the worst cases by FAR.
There will always be fear throughout life but it doesn’t have to have a hold on you to prevent
you from doing what you really want to do. When you're following your dreams and fear is present, you know you're going in the right direction. Don't let fear be the invisible obstacle that stops you from waking up happy and fulfilled.
Good Luck 🙏🏾,